What Makes a Woman Lose Respect for a Man? Avoid These Mistakes!

You want to keep your woman’s respect? Here’s what NOT to do…

We’ve all been there – in a relationship where we feel like we’re losing our partner’s respect.

And it can be really tough to get that back once it’s gone.

So what makes a woman start to lose respect for her man?

To help you avoid some of the major pitfalls, I’m going to walk you through the biggest mistakes guys make that demolish respect in a relationship.

Let’s dive right in, shall we?

The Silent Treatment

Pulling away emotionally and giving your partner the silent treatment is a surefire way to erode her respect for you.

Look, I get it – sometimes you need a little space to process things.

That’s totally normal and healthy.

But going into a full shutdown mode where you refuse to communicate or share what’s going on?

That’s going to breed resentment faster than you can say “stonewalling”.

Shutting down emotionally shows:

  • Lack of maturity
  • Inability to regulate emotions
  • Unwillingness to work on conflicts

And those things are toxic for a woman’s respect.

Emotional intelligence and vulnerability in dealing with problems? Now that’s attractive.

So don’t shut her out. Keep those lines of communication open, even if it’s hard.

Dishonesty and Lying

We all know lies breed distrust and destroy intimacy.

Even little white lies can snowball into something bigger until you find yourselves in a perpetual cycle of deception.

Maybe you said something happened when it didn’t, or you downplayed an event to avoid an argument.

Maybe you even told a little fib to cover up bad behavior.

Whatever it is, STOP.

Being caught in a web of lies, big or small, deeply damages a woman’s respect for her partner.

She can’t respect someone she doesn’t feel she can trust.

So be honest, even when it’s hard. It’s the only path to building real, lasting trust and respect.

Respect Killers:Respect Builders:
DishonestyHonesty
DeceptionTransparency
CoverupsAccountability

Lack of Integrity

Integrity means living by a strong moral code and standing for something.

It means your actions match your values and words.

A man without integrity who:

  • Talks big but can’t follow through
  • Says one thing and does another
  • Makes promises he can’t keep

…loses major respect points.

Why? Because his word and his principles have no weight.

There’s no substance behind what he’s saying. No dependability.

A woman needs to be able to count on and respect her partner’s integrity.

His words need to have real meaning behind them.

Otherwise, she’ll start to see him as disingenuous and untrustworthy.

And respected? Forget about it.

The Fix:

  • Define your core values and principles
  • Make sure your actions consistently match your words
  • Be someone of substance that others can rely on

Irresponsibility

We all have responsibilities – work, chores, paying bills, being there for loved ones.

A man who shirks those essential duties or passes the buck is sending a clear message:

“I can’t handle my business, and I lack discipline.”

And I’m sorry, but that’s just not attractive or respectable.

A woman can’t respect a man she has to constantly nag to:

  • Get a job
  • Pay the bills on time
  • Clean up after himself
  • Take care of the kids sometimes

She needs a partner, not another child to look after.

  • Bullet List One:
  • Step up and shoulder your responsibilities

Even if it’s not always fun or convenient, being dependable and disciplined goes a long way in maintaining respect.

Emotional Weakness

Now don’t get me wrong – it’s absolutely OK for a man to have emotional vulnerabilities.

In fact, that’s a good thing!

Showing appropriate emotional sensitivity demonstrates strength.

What’s not OK is constant moodiness, emotional outbursts, neediness and instability.

If a woman feels like she’s constantly walking on eggshells to avoid her partner’s emotional flare-ups, she’ll quickly start to lose respect for him.

Why? Because a relationship should be a source of stability and security, not constant emotional turmoil and upheaval.

Emotional rollercoasters quickly start to make a woman feel drained and disempowered.

And eventually, exhausted and disrespected.

The Fix:

  1. Work on your emotional self-awareness and intelligence
  2. Seek help if needed to manage emotions better
  3. Provide more emotional stability than instability

Lack of Purpose or Drive

A man needs to have passions, goals, and a strong sense of purpose outside the relationship.

Why? Because having no bigger mission eventually makes a man’s life feel aimless and stagnant.

And it can inadvertently put a ton of unhealthy pressure on the relationship to provide all of his fulfillment.

A woman can’t respect a man who has no direction and is just going through the motions of life.

“What does he even want for himself?” she’ll wonder.

Having ambition, setting goals, working toward something meaningful – these show a woman that her partner is engaged, self-motivated and intentional.

Respect skyrockets when she sees her man actively pursuing his mission and potential.

The Fix:

  • Identify your values and what really drives you
  • Set clear goals to work toward in your career, hobbies and personal growth
  • Let your woman be an active supporter of your ambitions, not the sole focus

The Bottom Line

At the end of the day, a woman deeply craves a partner she can look up to.

The kind of respect that endures is built on a foundation of integrity, responsibility, maturity, purpose and genuine care and trust.

If you want to maintain that essential respect, avoid the major pitfalls we covered – like emotional unavailability, lies, irresponsibility and lack of direction.

Instead, lead by example in areas like:

  • Open communication
  • Integrity and trustworthiness
  • Handling responsibilities
  • Emotional stability
  • Ambitious self-motivation

By focusing on being that bedrock of security, stability and purpose, her respect for you won’t just endure – it’ll keep growing deeper.

I know this path isn’t always easy. But it’s absolutely worth it to build a relationship forged in deep, lasting respect.

The alternative is a partnership on shaky, unsure ground. And that’s no place to build a fulfilling, long-term love.

So keep putting in the work, focus on the fundamentals, and earn that respect day by day.

You – and the amazing woman by your side – deserve nothing less.

I hope these insights have been helpful for you!

Remember, I’m always here if you need any other guidance. Wishing you all the very best.

I'm Sarah Koch, a Relationship Coach based in Austin, Texas. With over 9 years of professional experience and degrees in Sociology and Counseling Psychology from UT Austin, I specialize in helping people build healthy, fulfilling relationships. On this blog, you'll find practical tips and insightful guidance for improving communication, resolving conflicts, increasing intimacy, and fostering deeper connections in your romantic relationships, family dynamics, friendships and more.

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