Why Do I Feel Like My Boyfriend Doesn’t Like Me?

Ugh, that sinking feeling in your gut.
That nagging voice in the back of your head.
The constant anxiety and self-doubt…

Sound familiar?

If you constantly feel like your boyfriend doesn’t like you? then just know that you are so not alone!

I’ve heard this concern from countless clients over the years.

And let me tell you, it’s a doozy of an emotional roller coaster.

But fear not!

We’re going to figure out what’s really going on in that relationship of yours.

Is It All in Your Head?

First things first, let’s acknowledge that sometimes our insecurities can get the best of us.
We start overanalyzing every little thing our partner says or does (or doesn’t do) and before you know it, we’ve convinced ourselves they must secretly hate us.

But just because you FEEL like your boyfriend doesn’t like you, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s true.
Our feelings can be sneaky little liars sometimes!

So before you spiral too far down the rabbit hole of relationship doom, take a step back and ask yourself:
Is there concrete evidence to support this feeling or am I just getting in my own head?

Signs Your Boyfriend Might Not Be That Into You

Okay, now let’s get real for a second.
While it’s important not to jump to conclusions, there ARE some red flags that could indicate your boyfriend’s feelings have faded.
Watch out for these tell-tale signs:

1. He’s suddenly always “too busy” to hang out or consistently flakes on plans last minute.
   And no, playing 8 hours of Fortnite doesn’t count as being “busy”!
2. He takes forever to respond to your texts/calls or straight up ignores them.
   I’m sorry, but if he has time to post memes on Instagram, he can spare 30 seconds to text you back!
3. Your conversations feel forced, awkward, and lack that spark.
   If talking to your boyfriend feels about as exciting as watching paint dry, that’s not a great sign.
4. He avoids physical affection and pulls away from hugs, kisses, and cuddles.
   Unless he’s suddenly developed a severe allergy to human touch, this is a big ol’ red flag.
5. You catch him checking out or flirting with other girls.
   I don’t care how hot Becky from accounting is – if he’s blatantly scoping out other chicks in front of you, that’s just disrespectful!

Now, I know what you’re thinking:
“But Sarah, what if he’s just going through a rough patch? Maybe he’s stressed out with work/school/family drama and it has nothing to do with me!”

And you’re right, external factors CAN definitely impact how your boyfriend acts in the relationship.

However, even if he’s going through a tough time, completely neglecting and shutting you out is NOT an acceptable way to cope.

He should still make an effort to communicate, show affection, and make you feel valued – even if it looks a little different than usual.

What to Do If You Think Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Like You

So you’ve done some reflecting and determined this isn’t just a case of an overactive imagination.
Now what?!

Well my friend, it’s time to put on your big girl pants and COMMUNICATE.

I know, I know – confronting relationship issues is about as fun as getting a root canal.
But trust me, suffering in silence and hoping things will magically fix themselves is a recipe for resentment and heartache.

Here’s how to approach the conversation:

1. Pick a time when you’re both calm and can talk without distractions.
   This means no bringing it up in the middle of a heated Mario Kart battle or while he’s stressing over that big presentation at work.
2. Use “I feel” statements to express how his actions (or lack thereof) are affecting you.
   For example: “I feel hurt and unimportant when you cancel our plans last minute.”
3. Avoid accusatory “you” statements that put him on the defensive.
   Instead of “YOU never make time for me anymore!” try “I miss spending quality time together and it makes me feel disconnected from you.”
4. Give specific examples of the behavior that’s concerning you.
   Rather than a vague “you’re so distant lately,” pinpoint exact instances like “When I tried to hug you yesterday, you pulled away and it made me feel rejected.”
5. Ask open-ended questions to gain a better understanding of his perspective.
   “I’ve noticed X,Y,Z changes in our relationship. Is there something going on that I should know about? How are you feeling about us?”

If he’s receptive to the conversation and expresses a genuine desire to work on things, GREAT!

Together, you can come up with a plan to address the issues and start rebuilding that connection.

However, if he gets defensive, dismisses your concerns, or straight up admits he’s just not feeling it anymore, then I hate to break it to you sis, but it might be time to re-evaluate the relationship.

Knowing When It’s Time to Walk Away

Repeat after me: YOU DESERVE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO ADORES EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU – QUIRKS AND ALL!

Never settle for being an afterthought or constantly questioning where you stand with someone.

If your boyfriend can’t get his act together and start showing you the love, respect, and attention you need to feel secure in the relationship, then you might need to love yourself enough to let him go.

I know breakups suck harder than a vacuum cleaner in a black hole, but sometimes they’re necessary for your own well-being and happiness.

And as the iconic Samantha Jones once said, “I love you, but I love me more.”

Final Thoughts

Navigating relationship doubts and insecurities is never easy, but don’t let those negative feelings consume you.

At the end of the day, you can’t control how your boyfriend feels or acts – but you CAN control how you respond and advocate for your own needs.

So communicate openly, trust your gut, and never be afraid to prioritize your own happiness.

You’ve got this, babe!

And if all else fails, remember: there are plenty of fish in the sea…and some of them might actually text you back!