As a lifestyle author, I often get asked what I’m up to. And when it comes from someone I’m interested in, I like to respond in a fun, flirty way. So here are some of my favorite flirty comebacks when I’m asked “what are you up to?“.
Whether via text, messaging, or in person, these playful replies show that I’m down for some lighthearted banter. They also open up the conversation for more back-and-forth. Because a flirty response invites the other person to volley back with their own witty remark.
Funny Responses
If you want to make them laugh, try one of these humorous replies:
Oh, just hangin’ out in my pajamas eating cereal straight from the box. Want to join?
Sneaking into your house to steal all your left socks. Don’t mind me!
Riding a unicorn over rainbows trying to find a leprechaun’s pot of gold. The usual.
I was trying to take over the world, but now I’m just thinking about you 😉
Sitting here waiting for you to text me back! Took ya long enough.
Stalking you on Insta. Your dog is so cute! Can I pet him someday?
Isn’t it obvious? Daydreaming about our perfect first date!
Can’t tell if I miss you or Tacos more today…it’s a tough call.
Channeling my inner Martha Stewart to bake the perfect cookies for you! heart emoji
If I told you, I’d have to tickle you into silence. wink emoji Meet me and find out!
Cheeky Responses
Feeling bold? Drop one of these cheeky lines:
Imagining what I’d text you if I had no filter right now…
Can’t say, it would make you blush!
Wishing you were here with me right now 😉
Checking you out on Insta and fantasizing a bit…
Getting into trouble without you! devil emoji
Daydreaming about that cute face of yours.
I just took a cold shower after thinking about you too much!
Want to meet up later and I’ll show you? wink emoji
Oh nothing, just thinking about taking you on a date!
Missing my favorite flirt buddy… kiss emoji
Playful Responses
In a silly mood? Try one of these playful replies:
Dancing in my PJs to cheesy pop songs, of course!
I was planning world domination, but now thinking about more important things…like when I can see you again!
Hunting for your number in the phone book so I could text my favorite person. smiley emoji
Making friendship bracelets and love potions to use on you next time we meet. heart eyes emoji
Crafting a cheesy pick up line to make you laugh when you least expect it.
Lounging around daydreaming up cute nicknames for you. smirk emoji
Wondering if spiders have dreams and if they dream about humans. Weird, I know! laughing emoji
Can’t say! I’d rather show you when we get together later…wink emoji
I could tell you, but then I’d have to tickle you! grinning emoji with tongues out
Imagining silly adventures we could go on together. Like hunting for aliens! alien emoji
Sweet Responses
Feeling extra affectionate? Reply with one of these sweet lines:
Thinking about you and hoping I get to see your adorable face later!
On cloud nine after our last date! Can’t wait for round two! kiss emoji
Making a new playlist to set the mood for our next romantic rendezvous. smirking emoji
Daydreaming about finally getting to kiss those perfect lips of yours!
Wishing we were cuddling and watching movies together right now. cuddling emoji
Couldn’t stop smiling after you left last night. Missing my sweetie pie! pie emoji
Counting down the days/hours/minutes until I can gaze into those beautiful eyes again! heart eyes emoji
Doodling “Sarah + your name” in my notebook like a total smitten kitten! kitten emoji
Looking at the stars outside and thinking about my favorite star – you! sparkling star emoji
Remembering our electric first kiss and craving more! lipstick mark emoji
The Art of Flirty Banter
As you can see, responding to “What are you up to?” in a fun, flirtatious way opens the door for playful back-and-forth. It shows you’re interested in them and gets creative juices flowing.
Flirty banter relieves first date jitters when you meet in person after texting. And it keeps the spark alive once you start dating.
So don’t be afraid to tease, be bold, or get sweet in your responses! A cheeky or loving remark could lead to more meaningful conversation (and connection!).
How to Keep The Banter Going
Starting the flirty repartee is step one. But keeping it flowing is key for a true connections.
Here’s how to keep playful banter alive after your witty “What are you up to” comeback:
Ask questions about their response to your reply.
For example, if you joked about eating cereal from the box, they might quip “Save some for me!” You could then ask what their favorite cereal is.
Compliment their comeback if it made you smile. Everyone loves an ego boost!
Challenge them to a playful duel like thumb war or rock paper scissors next time you meet.
Suggest a silly or adventurous date idea based on your flirty exchange, like going hunting for aliens or crafting friendship bracelets.
Get increasingly cheeky! See if you can make them blush. Two can play the bold game!
When to Use Playful vs. Genuine Responses
While flirty responses are fabulous for lighthearted chatter, sometimes a thoughtful reply is more fitting:
| Playful Reply When: | Thoughtful Reply When: |
| You don’t know them well yet | It’s someone you’re dating or close to |
| You want to break the ice | The moment feels more intimate |
| Your last date was casual | You just had a romantic, bonding date |
Assess the vibe before crafting your response. A sweet or straight answer can forge an deeper connection when the mood feels right.
Examples of More Thoughtful “What Are You Up to” Responses
I’m writing in my journal and thinking about how lucky I am to have met someone as caring as you. heart emoji
Reminiscing about our amazing hike last weekend. I can’t remember the last time I felt so content. smiling emoji
Reading an interesting novel and making plans for our next snuggle & movie night! Does Saturday work for you? popcorn emoji
Admiring the sunset and feeling grateful to have shared so many beautiful moments with you so far. sunset emoji kiss emoji
Putting it All Together
So when asked the innocent question “What are you up to?” via text, messaging, or in person, consider it an opportunity for connection!
Have some flirty comebacks locked and loaded for lighthearted fun. Then read the moment to know when a genuine response would be more meaningful.
Sprinkling playful banter into new relationships or long-term partnerships keeps the spark crackling. So challenge yourself to send cheeky or sweet responses to your special someone soon. The best might be yet to come!
I’m Sarah Koch, and I work as a Relationship Coach in Austin, Texas. I’ve been doing this job for more than 9 years. I studied Sociology and Counseling Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. My main goal is to help people create strong and happy relationships. I also wrote a book called “Irresistible Texting” to share my ideas on how to have better relationships through texting.
